I havent posted here since I "left" OS and SL about 5 months ago... I've been "lurking" a bit since and occasionally logged in - but still not really "here" much.
However, I do feel moved to comment here. If you knew much (or anything) about the BSDM community you would know that in fact there are very few communities that (with some exceptions) treat people with as much dignity as the BDSM community treats people.
Yes, some people portray themselves as submissive - they may even portray themselves as slaves (although in reality there is nothing non-concensual in OS as you can ALWAYS log out), and some portray themselves as dominant. However this doesn't mean that the dominant treats submissive persons without dignity. Usually the effort that is gone to to ensure that everything is done in a way that works for BOTH parties is fairly extensive. If you witness someone being "humuliated" for example, that will almost always be by mutual consent. Some people get their kicks by being humiliated in one way or another. What's most dignified, forbidding them to enjoy this, or denying them, telling them that its undignified for them to enjoy what they like? How is it dignified to deny people to enjoy themselves in the way that works for them? I would say hunan dignity is to allow them to do what works for them. If they were coming to your land and forcing that on you - that would be a different thing.
Lastly - I just want to comment on me previously saying "most of the time" or "almost always" when describing the effort that the BDSM community go to ensure everyone is happy........ The exceptions to this are those people who join the community with ideas thats its just a way to boss people around - to take and not give. These are the exception - and the ones that often spoil things for others. The community should not be judged based on the worst people there - but on the "usual". I think most people in the BDSM community would agree with me that dominants (Both Doms and Dommes) spend a lot of time and effort "looking after" their submissives. The person with the REAL power in such a power exchage is actualy the submissive..... as she or he has the power to "stop" submitting. It's a gift given to the dominant in a power "exchange" and can be taken away as well as given.
Not dignified? Sounds pretty dignified to me!
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